An opinion survey will appear here as if by magic, in the fullness of time.
Meanwhile, I'd like to quote an aphorism that appears in the sig file of tamf's husband and is attributed in the Talmud (Shabbath 31) to Rabbi Hillel the Elder of Babylon (c. 50 BCE) as a synopsis of the essence of Judaism:
What you find hateful to yourself, do not do to another.
This is the whole of the Law; all else is commentary.
This converse of the Golden Rule definitely applies in force. Expect respect? Command it; do not demand it.
Oh, and you all know this is a public blog - as public as it gets, as I never lock posts. Enjoy. :-D